A Teen’s Confessions

“When someone says your dream is impossible, tell them ‘Yes, it’s impossible for me to stop believing in it.’” ~ Rina Raj

Rina RajMeet Rina Raj (actually her name is Karina but no, I’m not bothered that she changed her name… 😛 ).

Rina is my awesome 17 year old. She has dreams, goals, aspirations, and an inner drive to help teenagers – and parents – communicate more effectively.

Rina has many special talents. Among these, she’s a phenomenal communicator and an excellent writer. She’s thought-provoking individual with a beautiful spirit, a young woman who’s self aware and interested in learning about the mysteries of life. She loves expressing herself through writing, music and acting.

As many parents can relate, dealing with teenagers is not always easy. Communication can be complicated and it’s tough sometimes to know what’s going through the minds of these young individuals.

One weekend I was extremely upset with Rina. She was in one of those moods that affected me negatively that entire weekend. I was ignored each time I asked her to do something. I was given that “attitude” which contained some eye-rolling (no I didn’t do that to my parents when I was young – okay, maybe I did) and a harsh tone of voice.

That evening, I lost my patience. I sat my daughter down and had a heart-to-heart talk with her. To my surprise, she opened up and shared her feelings with me.

The words that came out of her mouth, describing what she was feeling, the pain she was holding on to, the troubles she was experiencing at school, the confusion she felt about life, the uncertainty about her thoughts and feelings made me realize that night – her moods had ZERO to do with me. She was only responding the way she was responding to me because she was already holding on to so much hurt and pain from events that took place during that week.

I just happened to be that mother who kept “nagging” her daughter who was already feeling upset from dealing with much middle school drama, nagging her at a time that just wasn’t right.

After she felt comfortable enough to open up to me, she communicated what she was feeling deep down and even suggested we start a mother-daughter journal where we can exchange our thoughts and feelings to one another.

Let’s just say, I was astonished.

Her words made so much sense. Her solution to help foster communication between her and I left me feeling amazed. How could I not understand where she was coming from?

Then it dawned on me, here was yet another special gift my daughter possessed. Hence the birth of her blog, Confessions of a Typical Teen!

I am proud to announce that Karina – I mean Rina – will be sharing her experiences with teenagers and parents in hopes to help clarify and alleviate miscommunications, to foster healthier relationships within families. Rina has many ideas and personal experiences to share with everyone.

Rina is a phenomenal young woman and I am honored to witness this unique and profound journey of hers. I know she will bring extreme value and much teenage wisdom to you all.

 

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